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If you come home from work and walk in the door to find all hell breaking loose, what is the firstborn thing to do to restore discipline and control?
Stop and Listen
Take a few moments merely to observe. The screaming five-year-old might have just had her favored toy snatched by the eight-year-old. If you yell at the five-year-old, you will reinforce the eight-year-old’s rotten conduct and the five-year-old will remind you of it on her eightieth birthday. Better to say nothing, than to accuse falsely.
Everyone Needs a Moment
If Mom or the Nanny has been in control, let them stay in control until you make the often-complicated transition from worker or boss to Dad. If you have a few moments to get into your comfortable clothes, take a shower or take a breath after a hectic day, then you may keep out of the way of taking out your stress on the faulty people. Discuss with your collaborator in advance the amount of transition time that you need, perchance 10-20 minutes to modify roles. Promise to take over the kids and let him or her have a necessary break from the family to take a walk or recoup their sanity before all the feed preparation and bedtime rituals begin.
Just Hold It
Eventually school age children may learn to wait, but young children cannot hold in their emotions. Toddlers may have to be carried around when you introductory arrive. Young children do not recognise how to delay gratification and will annoy you so much that you may yell at them and break their hearts. Do not ask them to do what they developmentally can not do, yet.
Spouse Comes First
Spouses may have urgent issues to discuss. If you ignore your spouse, paybacks will be later and not good. Ask your spouse what would help him or her the most and then ask the kids to support you. That way you are giving them both a lot of time and energy. Reassure your spouse that you will set detached time to talk about whatsoever he or she needs in a few minutes. The sheer best thing that you may do for your children is to have a good kinship with their other parent. Fighting, yelling or shunning your spouse leaves huge marks on your children.
Give Children What They Want
Needy children and spouses will compete for your attention. You may just want to relax, but that is not going to take place until they know you care in regards to them. Children may have waited the whole day for your return. Take time to sit still and let them all talk to you, look each one in the eye, tell them you are happy to see them and you missed them. If you are affectionate, then give hugs all around and smile at them. If you try to bypass this step, your children will turn to misbehaving to get your highly desired attention. Better to give them attention before they get started to act up. Tell them, “When you may quiet down, I want you to sit next to me so I may listen when it comes to your day. Who will be first?” Try to ignore the one who acts unruly and reward the one who is talking nicely to you. Ask the children to do for you, get you water, rub your aching feet, or fan you gently. They want to love you and after a hard day, you may gain from their attention lavished on you.
Spare the Rod
You are tired, hungry and ready to spank. However, striking a child by any other name is still striking a child. Slapping a bottom or hand is not instructing good behavior, slapping a child only teaches violence. Be sure that is what you want your child to learn from you; someday you will be dependent on your children’s benignancy and care, and that could be ugly. Millions of people raise children without hitting, screaming, spanking or grabbing them and so may you. Time-out is a consequence of not following parental rules and does make children change their behavior. Older children respond to grounding and restriction of computer, phone, games and company. If you are crossing the discipline line to abuse, get a lot of counseling.
The Washing Machine is Broken, Two Checks Bounced and We have a Parent-Teacher Meeting.
If you are the one he is coming home to, and you love your children, shut up. Let the man get in the door and see his children, relax and de-stress. Only if someone is bleeding, will have to you meet your man at the door with a bunch of negative remarks that when added to work and traffic, could cause him to stroke out. That anger will likely be diverted to noisy, happy children who will feel blindsided by mean Dad. Almost all things may wait until the next business day. Keep your bad news to yourself until you set a time to talk about family issues after the children are busy elsewhere and you may listen quietly to each other. Otherwise, he will just boss you around and not ever get the details. You will be crazy and frustrated and end up taking care of everything yourself anyway. Transition time is sacred.
So pick up the toddler, kiss your spouse and let the games begin.
Honey Im Home Sitcoms American
How did it occur that in a time when networks were run by Jewish men, and a great deal of television shows were written by Jewish writers, there were so few identifiably Jewish characters on television? In his provocative book, David Zurawik marshalls compelling proof to suggest that, for the duration of television’s primary thirty-five years, it is mainly Jewish power brokers actively suppressed Jewish characters and Jewish themes from appearing on the little screen.
Beginning his investigation in the early days of television with Gertrude Berg and The Goldbergs, Zurawik, an award-winning journalist, shows how the Jewish founders of the three major networks–William S. Paley (CBS), David Sarnoff (NBC), and Leonard Goldenson (ABC)–dictated the kinds of shows Americans would watch from the late 1940s until they sold their broadcast empires in the mid-1980s. Under the auspices of these fabulously powerful men, the television industry either distorted or eradicated totally images of Jews from prime time at the very moment when television came to hold center stage in mainstream American life. In fact, creating a cookie-cutter effigy of American life was so crucial to the top Jewish executives that they fictitious a brief, which passed around amongst the networks and became legendary in the industry. It claimed that CBS had “research” that conveyed Americans were not mesmerized in seeing Jews (or divorced people, people from New York, and men with mustaches) on the little screen. Zurawik convincingly argues that Paley and the others were ambivalent in regards to their own Jewishness, and fearful, in the post-Holocaust, pro-assimilation, red-baiting 1950s, that their shows not appear “too Jewish.” The ironic result: with few exceptions, shows like Father Knows Best and Leave It to Beaver came to represent American family life, while Jewish identity was staged as something that had to be obscured or concealed away.
Only when the moguls sold their interest in the networks and moved on did things start out to modify in a sustained way. Serious shows with leading Jewish characters started out to appear in series like thirtysomething and Northern Exposure, which dealt with issues of tolerance, intermarriage, and assimilation. But in a lot of of the programs that followed, peculiarly the sitcoms of the 1990s, Jewish men and exceptionally Jewish women fell into stereotypical roles that Zurawik describes as “nebbishy boyfriends lusting after non-Jewish women” or “Jewish-American princesses and smothering mothers.” And, even though Jewish characters are now plenteous on television, a great deal of are very nominally Jewish, or Jewish in name only. Despite the best attempts of the successors of Paley, Sarnoff, and Goldenson, the culture of Jewish self-consciousness and censorship lives on in network television today.
Based on more than one hundred consultations collected over ten years with network executives, producers, and actors, Zurawik’s book gives voice to these insiders–who reveal, for the primary time, how and why the depiction of Jews on television has followed such a strange, unpredictable course.
- Amazon Sales Rank: #685135 in Books
- Published on: 2003-03-03
- Original language: English
- Number of items: 1
- Dimensions: 1.13″ h x 6.26″ w x 9.20″ l, 1.32 pounds
- Binding: Hardcover
- 256 pages
| Review”A book that is sure to inspire debate in the amusement industry, in the academic world and amid the Jewish public at large.”–Baltimore Jewish Times
“Mr. Zurawik, who is the television critic for The Sun, in Baltimore, in the first place wrote his book as a dissertation in American studies at the University of Maryland at College Park. Mr. Zurawik focuses on what he calls ‘the history of these gatekeepers who produced a strange void of Jewish identity’ on network TV for much of the past half-century.”–The Chronicle of Higher Education
“…readable and interesting…”–Jewish Book World
“As the story of Jewish characters in prime time is as much one of absence as it is of presence, Zurawik goes beyond the traditional, academic textual analysis. Instead, he decisive to supplement his exploration of the images with the more demanding production research, which meant interviewing as galore executives, producers, creators and actors as he could, asking them questions that were many times not flattering. ‘It was Vietnam,’ Zurawik told The Jerusalem Report, conjuring the metaphor of war to describe the routine of carrying out or participate in the often-reluctant milieu of Jewish TV professionals. ‘I was in a swamp and thinking fast. It’s a lot of work, a lot of writing letters, a lot of getting rejected by a heap of of them, of not getting answers, of following up.’ His attempts remunerated off. The book provides not only a plethora of well-described case studies, but also a wealth of consultations with men and women of influence, all of whom exaggerate and elaborated on Zurawik’s findings.”–Jerusalem Report
Review”For TV critic and historian David Zurawik to get persons to talk at all when it comes to such a sensible subject is impressive. To get so galore to talk so revealingly is closer to amazing. Meanwhile, his own exhaustive and exhaustively agreeably diverting perceptivities regarding so a great deal of TV shows, from The Goldbergs and Rhoda to Seinfeld and The Nanny, make this one of the most important, well-researched and addictively readable television books ever written.” (David Bianculli, TV Critic, New York Daily News and National Public Radio’s Fresh Air )
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24 of 28 people found the following review helpful.
 The Jews of Prime Time–fine book
By Paul Burstein
‘The Jews of Prime Time’ is a fine analysis of Jewish characters in prime time television going all the way back to The Goldbergs in the late 1940s and early 1950s. Zurawik shows how few Jewish characters there have been, notes that between 1955 and 1972 there were virtually no such characters, and describes how many of the characters reflect stereotypes about Jews, many of them negative. Particularly interesting is his analysis of the virtually complete absence of marriages between Jews–almost every marriage involving a Jewish character since the 1970s has been an intermarriage. What’s especially remarkable is that all this took place when a high proportion of network and production company writers, producers, directors, and executives were Jewish. Thus, The Jews of Prime Time shows that television was like the movies–Jews were very important as creators of the medium and played a great role in its development, but were so ambivalent about their own Jewishness, and so fearful of anti-Semitism, that their impact on the image of Jews in the U.S. may very well have been negative. And this is not just a matter of history, either. There are few positive portrayals of Jews even today, and, ironically, the entry of more Jewish women into responsible position in television may be associated more with the reinforcement of negative stereotypes about Jewish women than with undermining them.
This is a serious book, published by a university press, but that shouldn’t scare anyone off. It’s easy to read, the narrative carries the reader along, and it’s fun reading the inside story of an aspect of television history–even if the story is depressing in some ways. I read it in a day.
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